This might be the most important rule of all if you don’t want to lose your friends. I must say this is one of my weak points. Whenever I say Yes I’ll Be There, there’s 70% chance I’ll change my mind. That’s why I always say Yeah Maybe I’ll Be There. But people don’t like to hear that either.
There’s 2 things people really hate: undecisive people and cancelled meetings.
But what the hell are you supposed to do if you like your freedom?
Maybe the best solution of all: gather as much information as you need to make a good decision, say you’ll decide at a specific time, decide at that time and whatever you do, DO NOT change your mind after that.
Just don’t fuck up your relations by not keeping your promises. People won’t believe you anymore, they start losing their trust in you. Initially, when you just meet someone new, they will usually give you a lot of trust. Whenever you do something good, you get some extra. But when you do bad things or fuck things up, your container of trust will get empty real soon.
People’s goodwill, people’s trust in you is one of the most important things in life. Guard it with all your might 🙂